How important are the words out of your mouth or your spouse’s mouth? How important are the words out of God’s mouth? The Bible tells us that God’s words are settled in Heaven forever and ever (Psalm 119:89). His words were used to create everything you see (Genesis 1). They are quick (alive) and powerful (Hebrews 4:12). His words promise salvation, healing, deliverance, prosperity and all things that are good and perfect. How important is it for us to be able to rely on God’s words? We are all lost and in a heap of trouble if we can’t depend on His words. Our words are very important also, for they carry the power of life and death, blessing and cursing.
One of the things that we have preached for years is that when you get married you and your spouse become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). This is not just talking about in a physical sense but also in a spiritual sense. You are one and that is why it is so important to be in unity. The words out of one of your mouths apply to the other. For example, if your wife promises someone she will do something and then the husband comes along and changes, denies, manipulates or justifies canceling that promise he has just made his wife a liar. It works the same way in reverse. Your wife’s integrity and good name has just been damaged and the blessings of God have just been short-circuited. I realize that there may be times where there may be unforeseen circumstances that require a change and in those cases you should notify the one that the promise was made to so that trust and integrity cannot be hindered.
We just returned from a vacation trip to Alabama where we celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary. On the way home our truck’s alternator died and we had to be towed.The nice young black man that owned the towing company took us to his home and replaced the old alternator in his shop at his home. He only charged us for the cost of the new alternator but I paid him much more because he had saved the day for us and deserved to be blessed. We also had a chance to pray for this young man regarding several issues he was facing. Two days later I noticed on my Internet bank statement that our check to him had been cashed for sixty dollars less than I had promised him. When I looked at the check online I had written the wrong amount in the line where you spell it out. The bank reduced the numerical amount to the written amount. Now, I could have just left it at that and saved sixty dollars because I never was going to see that young man again. No, No, No!!!!!! My words are important!!! I am a man of God and I need to always keep my words. I told that young man a certain amount and that is the amount I needed to pay!!!! I called the young man and apologized for messing up the check and told him a new check was in the mail for the balance.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want anything standing in the way of the flow of blessings coming my way from God. If God keeps His words to me (and he always has and always will) then I need to be a man of my word. If my wife makes a promise to someone I will do all I can to make sure that promise is fulfilled. We learned a long time ago to give each other the freedom to hear God and give where He said give. No second-guessing, manipulation, or rationalizing why we should not do it. Her word is my word and vice versa. Don’t put your spouse in a situation that he or she is made to be a liar. It hurts your integrity and it hinders the flow of blessings that God wants to pour out on you and your spouse.
However, in the Lord, neither is woman independent of man, nor is man independent of woman (1 Corinthians 11:11 NAS).
Rev. Ed & Cheryl Henderson
New Life Network, Inc.
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